Have you told the oil company that you prefer they go around your surface? Does the landman claim that there is a right despite your lease language? If so, ask him to explain the reason in writing. If the company has no grounds, it might offer you a lot more money. If you get stuck in the end, I would see the road as far more invasive as there could be a lot of traffic and strangers would be on your property. Demand that the road and pipeline skirt the perimeter of your land and that it be fenced off. Good luck.